I found that it is not about procrastination but an learned effect of a over powering parent/parenting, which also is generational, do more, be more slogan and a crisis in the form having a problem as a child and not having the skill set to handle the problem, yet not having parents that did not actually see you. Human are not created to move this way, it is unnatural to their being. Hence leading to many of the addictions now present, fears and doubt being the iceberg waiting to sink. Instead of teaching to challenge where or when they first felt this way and understanding that their parents did not have the skills set, instead blaming, acknowledging as in: stop breathe and refocus or walk away to see a different view point. We live society that wants us to process this, move on to next and next (that why the are kids are not learning) information overload.
It is like teaching a child to draw a tree accept that it is multifaceted, now ask child to describe a tree, is whole other picture. Oh, let add that their are adults and children who can see the answer in a second, hence: Add, Adhd (which are only labels) yet they are working in a systems that tells them they is only one way which is false and a lie. The answer lies in question- as to why a person with mental disability can calculate something who is savant, which seems like a contradictions, but is only a example. We are boring our children to death because it not challenging or forced learning things against their natural flow of things. Then to add fuel to fire we expecting a one shoe fits all concept that does not work, creating a view or expectation that we should all be the same, when all is same, but a unique part of the whole. If I have flat tire I am not going to take my car to a lawyer, because my tire will not get fixed.
When you tell anyone adult or child they wrong or to be like another because they don't agree will you without questioning there actual thoughts to determine their thought process, you are in turn controlling the conversation verse not listening to possibly a different view. Here is example look out the window, any window and now call someone over to the window and ask them to look out the window, but don't tell them why. Then ask what they saw, you will find that they did not see the same thing as you or they did, and they're psychic. Spiritual humor, but maybe true! The point is this: same window different views.
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