9-15-19 Let’s talk about Sex

9-15-19 Let’s talk about Sex

Yesterday, while working I had a conversation with a high school teacher who teaches algebra my least favorite subject vs teaching kids about financing and handling money. The teacher then informed that she had to teach one of the students how to figure out whether her student had gotten his girl pregnant. I asked the teacher what the hell is a 14-year-old boy or girl even having sex for.

Now I have two boys who I tried to educate not on just school matters but life. The teacher did not have an answer to my question as to why. I thought that she may have some insight that I didn’t.  I got to thinking about the conversation today, not that my parents ever sat me down and had any remote conversation about sex with me. Then I got thinking about my niece is in the early twenties and has four children already. So, I started to wonder what the hell is wrong here.

I have told and tell my children to follow their passion and see the world, do what you love, and it does not in entail making babies or getting married like the old program of getting an education, a job, find a partner and settle down to buy a house. I am not saying education is not important but that we put these social and society programs in their minds thinking that it is the only way that it should be done. 

 

Then my next thought is technology with all the technology that we have available how is that we can’t have a simple conversation with the ones that we care about the most. Are we all so busy pursuing money to support ourselves that we're failing our children and their ability to create a future and world that gives them choices? As I reflect on my own life and my children’s future would I have done things differently without a doubt, yes! 

At least I got to experience life before having children and that is the only wish for them, is to experience life and not be tied down to it. And know that it doesn’t have to be done a certain way. With what little guidance that I did get, if any, I have always known that it did not have to be done in any order or where we are brainwashed into thinking there is only one way. If that we true, then technology would not exist. 

You know I lived in a lot of places and see these children and some as young as five whose life is already been written for them because we as parents are failing them in so many ways that we keep fearing  having a conversation on sex or that they can choose a different life for themselves, culture or otherwise. We really need to stop, take responsibility and have a conversation that impacts that future of our children and our life. If we aren’t willing to challenge of own fears about sex, life, culture, religion or nationality then we're failing as humans.