The Voice Within : Challenging Life

The Voice Within : Challenging Life: Challenging Life                                                                                                          2/10/15 ...

LETTING GO

LETTING GO

Every day we choose to move forward with our day. We choose to show up and move about creating seeds for a future. Each moment is a gateway to the future, you can choose to let go of people, places, things and a way of life that does not serve you and your highest good. You can ask to be shown where these things and people are who do not serve you and  that do not want you to change. 

Life is about change and the progress is in your own hands to make the decision to become the best possible you, So letting go is not about in-action, it about making a conscious choose to take action to move beyond what you can possibly think

Challenging Life

Challenging Life                                                                                                          2/10/15

Did you ever wonder why you have so many challenges in life? Maybe you set up the challenges to understand your own strengths, as individual and collective. These seemly random events have push, pulled, and set things in motion for reason. My question to you would you change any part of it and how would you go about doing it! Because the way I see it is you have are better equipped to understand not only yourself, but also other people. You have been there in some form or another. You know there pain, suffering, the happiness, joy of getting through that difficult event. Yet your still here. 

Life is far from perfect, but you are. If it were not for these events and challenges you would not know yourself, how you feel or how something affect you. It is a big puzzle and sometimes the pieces fit and other time they do not. Sometimes you need additional pieces to see the bigger picture. If everything were easy, you would get bored. That they the easy things are easy and the harder things are there for you to master them. It the shadows of yourself that push you until you scream, but once you pass the screaming and stomping your feet, just as child does, you have master the lesson before you. 

There is not right or wrong answer, it about you going beyond yourself and saying I can move through this! Then you can create better, see different, do it differently. There no test to pass or fail, it is about you challenging yourself in way that you can did not even image for yourself. Had you not experience the challenge, how would you have known what was or is possible, now you can create in a different way. If you spend more, time focusing on your heart, instead of the mind to create verses listening to the chattering of mind, you can move pass the fears and maybe the picture become clearer. 

The past is gone, and it is only a reference point. If you want to create differently, you have to think differently. See what worked and what did not, and move forward with no expectation of a future that is untold.

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So as I sit here drinking my coffee this morning, I start thinking about what happen on Facebook yesterday, how a simple post was misunderstood until it became personal. Now I do not believe that I have intently ever tried to hurt anyone. If anything, I go on Facebook to be inspired or inspire people. I write because I feel called to write, whether you chose to read or not. 

Therefore, if I have hurt you, or caused drama, jealously or anything else that may have caused you discomfort or pain. I am truly sorry. My Facebook page is where I connect to like-minded people and people who believe that they deserve better and that “we” are not here to suffer in life’s up and down. Life is hard and downright hurtful at times. I am one of many who are trying to live a different way, in hopes that I can make a difference in changing my own life and for others. I am not perfect and my life has been far from being prefect. What I do remember is this, “this is not who we are or why we came here”. I have spent several years remembering those parts of myself. 

Now you can think what you like of me, because really I do not need to judge. I more concern with finding answers as why people do what they do. Because, in truth you are only what you think you are and only you can realize who you are. Therefore, who are you! Moreover, what are you creating in your life? And after reading this and you still hold ill feeling toward me, all I can say is I have already died a thousand deaths and your actions are your own. I will not be silenced again, because that is not who I am.

Intentions for 2015 without quick fixes 12/29/2014

 

Merriam Webster dictionary defines Intention as – the thing that you plan to do or achieve an aim or purpose.

So many of us set intentions for the New Year in hopes that it will be a better year, to only find that within a month or two ; it has fallen to the waist side, as a lost goal. Well, intended goals need to be set in a real and achievable to your present day life. 

For example, if you want to exercise more consider walking for 15 mins. per day, even if it is around the block. Be honest will yourself and define the activity as do-able, not another reason to not take yourself serious enough to want be healthy. 

If you want to quit smoking, do not set a period, because you only focus on the time and date. Consider smoking less, find an activity like walking, strengthening, brush your teeth more, something that works for you. Take steps to be healthier and not beat yourself up for it, because like any habit it takes time to unlearn the behavior and reprogram the brain to do something else. 

If you eat too much sugar, candy, or caffeine, consider eating dry fruit, nuts, or a healthy alternative. With intention, it is a life style change not a quick fix. It would be wonderful life, if it were that easy. However, it takes hard work, focus and the ability to say it’s, worth to me to see this through to the end. Then you can set another goal to achieve for yourself.

Life is about being the best you, not about falling down, but getting back up and saying, I can do anything, if I set my mind to it. So set real goals and intentions, it takes steps (even baby ones) to change habits that we been doing for far too long. 

It is not about the road you took, it is how you ended up on the right path.

So have a Happy New Year and leave 2014 is the past where it belongs, because you cannot fix it, you can only see the lessons that you learned.

Happy New Year 2015

 

Smoking- if you are trying to quit smoking than take steps to overcome the habit. Cut back slowly, fake smoking by pretend to smoke or if it the smell that you like, than light the cigarette and put it out and then you have the smell. If it a release to calm you when you are stressed then take a walk or physical do something else. Practice mediation to unstressed yourself. Figure what is really causing the craving, did parents smoke, when did the habit start, was it social thing, what trigger the habit. 

Loss Weight – Weight loss is life style change, it takes time and planning. Is it a real goal or is a random thought because we like to beat ourselves up for not being like everyone else. Well here is a new flash you are not like everyone else, and will never be like everyone else, why would you want too. So consider changing your diet, (not a fad diet) chose to eat better foods, whole foods, cut back on the foods you know are not good for you. Try new foods, eat on small plates, plan, do research, write a list of the (good food choices that you like) exercise in any form. It does need to hurt; to make you feel better. Set real goals for your life style, we all have a busy life that does not mean we cannot make time for ourselves. We’re doing no good to anyone if we not taking care for ourselves first, if we show that we care about us first, you are teaching a valuable lesson in that your important and that the ones that you love, should love themselves just as much and care about them too.  

Exercise – Consider exercising for a least 30 mins., even its once day or once week. It take at least 15 min to 20 mins. for the body to function as whole, the means the body, brain and all the systems in the body ( heart, blood, lungs, muscles, etc) and no I not stating a science data here, if you want look it up yourself. Any Who! Exercise does not have to have to so physical that you hate it. Low impact works just as well, unless you want big muscles. I much rather be healthy in a less physical activity then jumping into something my body not ready to handle which will cause injury instead of getting me moving and motivated to keep doing it. So park in the back of shopping lot, take the stairs, walk the dog, go for hike or chase the kids or grand kids around at the park. Learn to ride a bike again. Just get out and move, your body will love you more and you will have more energy to pursue other things. 

Happier- So you want to be more happy, well it ok that we are not happy all the time, but when we are  not living from place where, we have to think about why were not happier, then something is a missed. Life is hard and difficult and we have learned that it not ok to show emotions, that we are not strong enough, too emotional, or any other label the people or ourselves have come up with to not deal with our feelings. Most people do not even know why they are emotional at any point, because we have lost touch with the “I am” part of ourselves. Now I am no doctor by any means but if you cannot find one reason to be happy, and then look into finding a professional to help you. Happiness comes from within and shines out from you to others. So find something in “you that makes you happy”. 

Relationships/partner- you know relationship are like mirrors we see what we like or what we do not. The things that we see are parts of ourselves that we do not believe are in us. Normally we are involve with someone that we admire for his or her qualities or believe that they have qualities that are similar to our own beliefs. Some relationship work and other just do not. Finding a true relationship/partner means getting down, dirty, and bluntly honest with yourself; If you are not honest with yourself, how can be honest in a relationship or with a partner. 

Now there is no science to finding the perfect person for anyone, because if everyone was prefect there would be no need for us to be here, just saying. If you want a relationship or partner figure, out whom you are and trust that when he right person comes along you will know it, as well as know yourself. So the next time  you meet someone take a step back, and really stop, listen to yourself, say is this the right person for me or at least be open to fact that there is a lesson to be learned that you don’t see in you. 

Example: If you quiet person, just maybe you do not want a loud person, unless you need to speak up for you own needs.

If you are independent person, maybe you do not want someone who is so depended on you to do everything for them.

Most of our reality of relationships stem from our family, parent, or grandparents, we mimic what we saw or rebel in the complete opposite way. We repeat the patterns; we tend to say it is not the same when in fact that it is on some level, if you look close enough you can find similar connection to your past to present day relationship. If you came from a health family or not so healthy, looking backwards will play a key role in all, if not all your relationships currently.

Just as we have free will to be, so do others, we cannot change, fix or be something were not willing to do for ourselves. So good luck looking for your partner/relationship, these are just my thoughts or observations that have played out in my own life.

Make more Money – Now what is a money, it is paper with ink on use as exchange for services brought and or sold, from paying the rent, mortgage , purchasing food, clothing and transportation and just about anything that provides some type of comfort to us. We pay taxes, insurances, we put in the bank so the bank can use to extend credits to loans and invest in other businesses, real estate, community, and everything else that it does with it. I not in the banking industry, so I not sure what happens to my money, but I do know this we spend X amount time working and worrying about money, in fact we never have enough money at any given point. Who would not want more money, I certainly would turn down money if it was offer to me, but at some point, we have to wonder what the cost of freeing ourselves from this boundless need to have more money. Money comes and goes, just look at the bills you pay for each month. Some people live hand to foot each month, some more spend than they make, some work excess hours to keep making more and more money.

When you start worrying about money it kind like hey I want more but I do not deserve it, because I have not work hard, longer hours, and spend every dime to believe I have money, to turn around each day and do all over again. Here is some simple rules to follow the next time your worry about money, do you have a bed and home to sleep in? There are people living on the street. Do you food in your house and in your stomach? There are children and people starving in the world. Do you have a car to drive? Some people travel by bus, train or walk more than 3 hours a day just to go to work one way. Just maybe, if look at the way, you spend your money; you will find that you really have more than you realize. So be thankful that you are one of the lucky one and be grateful that you have your needs taking care of. Most people do not realize what they have until it gone. 

Moment of Clarity or Ah Moment:

Above are thoughts to what I like to consider complete clarity or Ah moments! We all have them, but do we really pay attention to them! I have to honest in the fact that I did not like school or even college , because it does not express who we/you/I are,  or what anyone is capable of being. I found it extremely boring in the fact all we ever did was memorize facts, facts are great but do they really connect to the whole picture to see, reflect or see the pro and cons or even come up with a better thought or idea. 

I have gotten in trouble for questioning many people as to why this is that. Maybe that why our education systems stinks then and now, because it’s easy to just throw facts at us thinking we can’t really possible think. Did you know that most the world best thinkers, inventors, and innovators were considered crazy for their ideas? I think that I would much rather be considered the Innovator, than walk through life with my eyes closed. Years ago, you were crazy if you walked down the street talking to yourself, now we have Blue tooth.

The point is be who you were meant to be, break the rules and molds of what is possible,  it does not mean break the law; but think outside the box. Just image what is possible with the possibility.

Achieving the impossible is realizing it is possible. 

Written By Donna Millward 12/29/2014