Blaming and complaining: 10/28/15

Blaming and complaining: 10-28-15

I come to the realization that people complain or vent as I see fit, because somehow we supposed to know all the answers. Now when I young I believe everything should be equal. That meant all responsibility. Now I have fallen into cliché just as much another person. Were raised to prefect little girl and do as were told. Don’t create problems, sit there, be quiet and dream of your prefect life. The princess and prince, then wham reality hits. You now have become your mother or father.

 Now depending on your individual situation, or like mine. You were not that prefect little girl. You played in the dirt, you may have even climbed trees or ran with the boys because it was more interest and there was always adventure to be had. I am not saying that I did not have my moments with my dolls or playing with other girls. It was not the same by far. See with the boys, I did not have to be prefect or stay quiet and still, like what was expected. I tried to be just like them, except I knew the limits of what was really stupid or just out right dangerous. Yes, I was consideration annoying by my brother, but when I face things that challenge me, I take the time to remember the times when I was on these adventure or just challenging myself, because I did not want to seem like a “girl” with the boys; even though I was girl. It seems so far away now that I have moved on from being that girl with boys that these men who once push me to face my fears, are the ones who have forgotten that boy, who really did stupid things to prove that had no fears. And instead facing their true emotions, that it’s easier to blame a woman or man in their life for all of life’s problems, we have responsibility to ourselves to challenge our beliefs.

See we have the best of both worlds, if they had two parents or one. They taught you to be soft and gentle, the other side of parent push you against the world, and anyone who challenged you. See by age seven you already knew what you would be facing as adult. Depending on your story you were either push to be more or taught to sit back quietly and just sit there waiting for life to happen. See as women or young girls we are often not seen as powerful creator, even though we give life or emotionally support more than we received at most times. I can’t name any women who sit all day, with constantly thinking about the present or of the future. Always reflecting back on what has been experience up to any point, in her life. 

I think the only time we stop is when we are ill or experiencing someone that push us to find another solution to a problem, or just letting it be for now. Now I not a man so I can’t speak for that gender, nor would I want to, I really don’t know and to assume that I know would be ignorance on my part. I do know that there was a woman or man, somewhere in their life who gave to be there for them in some form or another. I often wonder if they think about that person who no matter what, found the time to put aside whatever they were doing to just listen and love them. Or would they blame them for all their problems that they created in their adult life.

 It’s funny in way that whomever that special person was a mother, grandmother, aunt and even a neighbor's mom, or your father, that they would not think of blaming them for their relationship issues, money issues, stresses at work or their own children, yet we blame the people that are around us. And they wonder why people complain, because as people, we know that they were not left to fend for themselves, there was always someone, even if their name wasn’t Mom/or Dad.

 See while trying to understand why there are people walking around in the world blaming other people for complaining and all the problems that they may be facing, I think about the ones who wiped their tears, cover their cuts with a bandage and put them to bed each night, so that they could come so far in life that it come down to neglecting our own feelings, from ourselves. And people who do who stand beside them now, even if it still Mom or Dad, would not think of blaming you for their problems. So the next time you feel like blaming or complaining about a life, remember who took care you. They did not do it because of life stresses they did it because they cared and loved you.

In light love, find balance within to remember that you’re never alone in this journey called life.