We have all heard of this phrase stop, drop, and
roll. What if we use the same phrase but in a different way, Stop, feel and
where are you? We all have these emotions that come over us and sometimes it is
hard to assess or acknowledge what we are feeling – depending on where we are. Emotions
are internal GPS of what is happening at the moment. Since there is a wide
spectrum of emotions and feelings they can be overwhelming in the moment. By
stopping and questioning what am I feeling and where am brings bigger awareness
to what is happening at that moment. We are all sensitive to some degree or the
opposite of that is what I call an adrenaline junkie. These tend to be
risk-takers to the extreme. Extreme sports or extreme activities and nothing is
wrong with it, but most are not that way and tend to err on the cause side of
life. Both are needed and serve a purpose.
By assessing in the moment, if at all possible, what
your feeling will help you understand who you are. Since we all have different
personalities and life experiences, things that we have had to overcome or
working on consciously or unconsciously relearning what is coming up to be
looked at or what you are feeling gives you greater awareness of the moment. We
were taught that it is not ok to be who we are. That we need to be like
everyone else. This normally it starts in childhood in the family home or
school and trying to appease the people who are around us. For a lack of better
words, they are teachers as parents, are future relationships because they
represent future partners and in many ways God and goddess to us.
Our emotions and feeling are predictive based on the
family that we’re raised in. Most emotions, feelings, as well as beliefs,
behavior, and thoughts, can be traced back at least two generations, if not
more. If we were taught to understand what we are feeling and experiencing from
the beginning, we have less problems identifying them now. We taught to shut
down, turn off or you’re too sensitive or emotional, to girly or be a man or
whatever was used to control you or make you suppress what you were feeling, or
told by another that your experience was invalid because they were not
experiencing what you were in that moment.
When you deny what you’re feeling for long enough
whether it was learned or taught, one is given and the other is received by all
accords you become like a soda bottle when shaking. The extremes of this are
anger, rage or sadness, and depression until you identify what is happening. I
am no expert or specialist, so seek one if necessary.
Yet, I spend the last 18 yrs. review my life to find
out understand why things happen to me the way they did and still do. Now, one
can spend their entire life in therapy or take responsibility and
question. There has never been so much
information available or access to knowledge. It has to start somewhere and
question what am I feeling and why is a great start or just go get a pill and
go on with your life as it is.
I am not pushing pills or therapy, that deep
hole that is feeding your soul to have the feelings and emotions be a constant
reminder that something is off will not go away until you address it. We have
disconnected from ourselves and who we are. Life is not a destination; it is a
journey to discover yourself. We are taught to look outside of ourselves for
answers, instead of within ourselves.
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