Gas-Lighting Ourselves
6-13-16
So this
morning I woke up to gas lighting repeating, repeatedly in my head. I
understood what it is because I experienced my whole life, as person, long
before I had even knew what it was. I have since acknowledge that what I knew a
child that things existed outside of our reality. Whether there were ghosts or
angels or the existence of guides that help us in our daily lives. It has been
a long journey to come to grip that things are not always as they seem. And the
small voice that has led me to now, has forever changed my life. As a child I experienced
many of the things listed below. I did not realize that it was emotion abuse until
my life was turned upside down. For an intuitive empath or just human, many
things have happen to me and that I experienced.
Many times I
questioned what I saw to be told that it was not really there or you’re imaging
things. Or how could you possibly know (when did happen) or I don’t smell anything,
see things, hear things. These all have terms after years of searching for answers.
They are Emphatic, Medium’s, Intuitive and Healer, Shaman, Light workers, Way
showers, and many more. Were raise to believe that humans, people are the highest
species on the planet and nothing else exists. But, with any research, and
filtering through counts books, articles and internet research you will find
that people all over the world have their own thoughts as to what exists and
what does not.
Even science
has speculated at or confirmed the existence of over beings back before the
bible existed. Yet, we have learned to not speak of the many things that we
have felt or experienced. It like living a perpetual lie of sorts. Now, if you
look up gas lighting you will find it listed an emotional abuse, which is a
form psychological abuse by a person, but it is hard to prove in a court of law
because it’s a “she said or he’s said” situation and without being truly
provable, when the person in involved out right denied it over and over again.
It becomes an on-going argument of conversation, if you engage with the person.
You either learn to shut-up or deny it’s even happening, because people tell
you that you don’t know what you’re talking about.
I bring this
up now, because I had person attempt to destroy me and any future that I saw
for my family and myself, and because it was a repeated thought this morning of
how people use this type of behavior to distort our own thinking long before we
realize it’s happening to us. What if all the well-meaning people and society
have been gas-lighting us to distrust a birth right that we’re to remember who
we are! What it there fears throughout all time was to awaken to the possibilities
that all is not what it seems. There are powerful people who would have you
continue to sleep and not question even yourself, and for you to see you less
than one or another. That to have what you want it takes lots work and enslaving
you to your fears. It like the man who flashed me a child and then threaten to
bring harm to my family and myself. I was gas-lighted into thinking that I powerless
and then confirm by my own family when I questions things of paranormal or what
is very normal. Making myself think that I could not trust my own eyes or
thoughts. That what I perceived was in fact there and those blimps of lights or
shadows, waves of reality bending or morphing, ghost, angels. I leave it at that.
I share the below
with you, as a way to expose Domestic Violence
and Sibling Violence, Addictions running through families and co-pended, depend
relationships’, that is not necessarily physical in natural, but become
physical after the person tries to take measures to protect themselves and
leave the situation. It starts is childhood, not when there in these relationships
with people. This type of mental abuse is not limited by color, culture, age or
gender and normally is pasted by one generation to the next, and so on.
“You’re making that up.”, “You
see everything in the most negative way.”, “Where did you get a crazy idea like
that?”, “You have an overactive imagination.”
Have you heard something along these lines from your
partner? Do you end up questioning and doubting yourself? Do you often find
yourself questioning your instincts?
Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse in
which the abuser manipulates situations repeatedly to trick the
victim into distrusting her own memory and perceptions. The term Gaslighting
comes from the 1938 British play, “Gas Light” in which a husband tries to drive
his wife crazy by dimming lights powered by gas in their home and then denies
that the lights changes when his wife points out the change. In this play, the
wife questions her own perceptions and sanity which is exactly what the victim
of gaslighting does as well.
There are various gas lighting techniques that the
abuser may use on the victim. These techniques throw the victim off topic and
can lead them to question their own thoughts, memories and actions
Withholding ~ the abuser
pretends to not understand the victim, refuses to listen and declines. For
example, the abuser may say “You’re just trying to confuse me.”
Countering~ the abuser
questions the victim’s memory, even though the victim is correct. For example,
the abuser could say, “Remember what you thought last time and how you were
wrong.”
Blocking & Diverting ~ the
abuser changes the subjections and questions the victim’s thoughts. For
example, the abuser can say, “You’re imagining things.”
Trivializing~ the abuser
makes the victim believe that her needs and thoughts aren’t important.
For example, the abuser may ask, “Are you really going to let something so
small get in between us?”
Forgetting & Denial ~ the
abuser pretends to forget what happened and may also deny promises made to the
victim. For example, the abuser may say, “I have no idea what you’re talking
about.”
According to author and psychoanalyst Robin Stern,
Ph.D., the signs of being a victim of gaslighting include:
•You constantly second-guess yourself.
•You ask yourself, “Am I too sensitive?” multiple
times a day.
•You often feel confused and even crazy.
•You’re always apologizing to your partner.
•You can’t understand why, with so many apparently
good things in your life, you aren’t happier.
•You frequently make excuses for your partner’s
behavior to friends and family.
•You find yourself withholding information from
friends and family so you don’t have to explain or make excuses.
•You know something is terribly wrong, but you can
never quite express what it is, even to yourself.
•You start lying to avoid the put downs and reality
twists.
•You have trouble making simple decisions.
•You have the sense that you used to be a very
different person – more confident, more fun-loving, and more relaxed.
•You feel hopeless and joyless.
•You feel as though you can’t do anything right.
•You wonder if you are a “good enough” partner.
If you find yourself relating to these signs, then you
may be a victim of gaslighting which is emotional abuse.
Credit for above: http://wingsprogram.com/tag/gaslighting-techniques/
