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Wednesday, December 7, 2016

Looking for Special Gift or Something sweet made with Love for Holiday

dorianoconnell - Esty Sweet Pastry 


http://101sweetpastry.com/about/
https://www.etsy.com/shop/dorianoconnell


Handmade cookies,marshmallows, meringues and gift boxes
 Pottstown, Pennsylvania 177 Sales On Etsy since 2012
5 out of 5 stars
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Dessert Club was started in 2013 in Boulder, Colorado by Dorian O’Connell who has more than 16 years of experience in culinary arts to produce a distinctive line of desserts. Dessert Club has been featured in the Boulder Daily Camera Newspaper, Yellow Scene Magazine, and Edible Front Range Magazine. She then moved her business to Pennsylvania.
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Dorian started working in restaurants at age 14.  Dorian graduated from the Culinary Institute of America in Hyde Park, New York. 
Dorian sought out Andrew Shotts at Garrison Confections and earned a position as Assistant Chocolatier. She traveled to France as part of Team USA for the Coupe du Monde de la Patisserie, the worldwide greatest competition for pastry professionals. The team took Bronze in the 2005 World Championship. 
Also in 2005, Dorian entered the annual U.S. Pastry Competition, America’s most prestigious pastry competition. Twenty rising stars of the pastry world are selected to compete each year and showcase their talents by creating advanced dessert and chocolate bonbon recipes exhibited along with highly technical sugar and chocolate sculpted showpieces. Dorian won the title of 2005 Pastry Chef of the Year.
Dorian then took the position Assistant Pastry Chef at the Wynn Casino in Las Vegas working under Chef Frederic Robert. 
She has appeared on television numerous times. Dorian’s work was shown on the back cover of Le Jouranal de Patisserie and in numerous other magazines. Dorian then took the position as Thomas Keller’s Pastry Chef at Bouchon Bakery in Napa Valley.
Dorian interned with the French Laundry and worked at one of the top restaurant in the country. Dorian contributed and collaborated in cookbooks Ad Hoc with Thomas Keller and  Baking and Pastry: Mastering the Art and Craft with Culinary Institute of America.
Dorian has worked in a bakery in Toronto,Canada for the two years before coming to Boulder. Currently, Dorian is  building her business Boulder Dessert Club and Sweet Pastry. She has been featured on Channel 9 News in Denver and in numerous magazines and newspapers in Boulder surrounding area.
What’s  my favorite dessert? Well, it changes depends on my mood and my cravings. pick one But, I would have to say anything chocolate or fruit. Passion Bonbons, Dark Chocolate Mousse Cake, Almond Frangipan, Creme Brûlée, Lemon Tart, Homemade Oreos, and the list goes on.


Tuesday, November 22, 2016

Who do we think we are - 11/22/2016


Who do we think we are  - 11/22/2016

You know one the hardness things to work through is am I good enough. It sad to think that our lives we work through until the end. Do what is expected of us and starting our own family; all the while we never give ourselves permission to just be. From the time were born into boxes of sorts. We’re compared to a sibling or the neighbor’s children, to friends or our family. We self-identify with people from the beginning. Never really experiencing ourselves. We not taught or shown that it ok to be “you”. So what if don’t do everything like everyone else. Who cares if you are not smartest person or that we live in a world that sees people as different.

We basically all want the same thing. We want to be happy and loved. And to love whatever that is. If we listen to media or any form of society, we will never be what they want. It is impossible! But it never about you, in the sense that your here on this beautiful planet with all its wonder to create whatever you desire. From the trees to mountains and everything in between. Yet, we allow everything to dictate to us from the outside in. Questions, like why am I here? Who am I? Why do I like this or that? Why did I choose my family and what lesson have I learned? Or why is this relationship so painful and who else have I had the same experience with and why is it showing up? Am I more than my family and friends have told me about myself! See we really never learn about ourselves. We wait until some trial or hardship, illness or accident; as well as death to really look at what is going on in life.

We never question our own beliefs about who we are. We taught that were not individual within a family, that family should come first or that working hard required more effort than is necessary. We taught that in order to be happy you have to do a, b, c and have this degree or that master's to be happy. What about working towards being happy and loving ourselves and other people. We all know that live is not sugar plums and gum drops. That every day we're faced with more emotions and choices of people from the time were get out bed to when we retire for the night, and then we let the day wander into our down time when we should be at rest and sleeping. As the saying goes “yesterday is gone and tomorrow is not here yet”.  We cannot worry about what has not happened yet, if that was true we all be mind readers, not that we can’t already mind read.

The only thing that separates people is their beliefs, language and what we think about ourselves or any other person on the planet. It’s like looking up a recipe for chicken each culture has a chicken dish. It, not the one you were raised with but it still chickens; nonetheless. See your personal choice is what decide what you like or dislike or whether you are capable of seeing something new or similar to another person. When your children or nieces, nephew ask why is that person different, what do you tell them? They reference people by what they see and what you tell them. They question because it’s not what their use too. Do you know that you can go anywhere on this planet or either your same state or county and people will see you difference because they don’t know you! From the smallest town to the largest city. People identify with what they know unless of course, you took the time to learn about people or traveled to understanding everywhere is the same. It what you been taught that separates one from another.

Fundamentally, we each have a body or form of some type, we all have blood, cells and are made of organic material. Yet, we don’t know who we are or that were all the same. I have never heard a child grown up and say I want to be poor or homeless. Or be a hater of people. We have learned it by our history books, family and friends, and society, yet at the very core, we know that we are alike and difference at the same time that is what makes us who we are.

I remember being really young and knowing that this is not the way it supposed to be and it’s been a journey to unlearned some painful experience, beliefs, and behaviors that were taught to myself. Yet, every day I learned that the more I look at people we are the same, regardless of the current situations and that no-one can say that they did anything with the help of another because there always people looking out for our best interest seen or unseen. It up to all of us to make the choice of where we see each other as humans. ©


Happy Giving Thanks, Day ..gobble gobble … 

Sunday, October 2, 2016

The Voice Within : Fighting for what you believe! 10/02/16, updated

Fighting for what you believe! 10/02/16

 

I have not written in few weeks. I have been pretty busy with school and work. I decide to write because I do love learning about all kind of things and get discourage in the fact that some people in the profession take it for grant that not everyone processes information the same way, as everyone else. And I am one of them. I have to be able to relate the information or at least draw on another experience to process the information. It becomes difficult when I am unable to relate to the material that is being presented. I bring this up because I am currently studying history, even with my personal feeling aside history has always been difficult for me when someone is teaching it to me.

 

It always amazed me that in an hour class or that someone who (a teacher) could fully expected anyone person to understand the material they presented and then have to recall, such material verbatim. Now I remember even as child that my teacher would teach or talk to us about some part of history and know that it was wrong regardless of it being in a book or not. The fact is that history is based on people who were educated on some level. Education was seen on level by the social status or people in power not necessary by common people and on many occasions, I have gotten this gut reaction that information presented is in fact just wrong. But we are taught to accept it as fact, because it written in book or a teacher or professor is teaching it to us. This bring me to the incident at hand. I had a quiz on this past Friday and was removed from the class because I apparently did not hear my teacher say that we could not use a certain guide for our terms.

 

Now regardless of the misunderstanding, it took me back to grade school where I was made to feel stupid for not knowing the answers to the question or questions, when asked. Now I know that there are things that I am very good at and there are things that need more time to ingest. I now have several options to fix the problem that I encountered in class. What amazes me the most is that I am paying for my education and even when I was younger my parents were playing through taxes for me to get an education and yet we are continuously failing are children or young adults, even on a college level because we sit in a class with a teacher or professor who has spent their entire career researching this same material because in their own gut or knowing they needed to research this very same material.

 

Then they expect people to repeat what they learned in years of research in less time then it took them. I am at a standstill, as to what I want to do with my re-test. I was offer to take my test at another time, which I now have to change my schedule or miss work to prove that I in fact know the information that this person gave in class. The problem with this for me is that history is riddled with the same thing over and over again. People in power, great battles for power or wealth over people, people enslaved, trying to control the masses and people thoughts and beliefs, women treated as an object versus a person, free will, to poverty, homelessness and despair. It just repeating its self over and over again. And we still can’t cannot get it right and can we never.

 

Even religious doctrine has these same dogma as history. Even as I consider my thought and beliefs of what I should do about my test to prove that I can repeat my teachers or the book version of history and consider whether my job will depend on whether I tell an employer about the history of Sumerian or the Spartan’s, or does it really matter whether I treated another soul with the respect they deserve or even myself with the love the care that we all seem to be looking for and that we all deserve and the details of life is what it is and were just in it, for a belief time.

 

I should tell you the entire time I am writing this I am walking back forth between the laundry room at my complex and I encounter a woman whom has an issue with me over the fact that her grandson cause 1200.00 of damage to my Suv when he collided with his bike. Now I could have flipped out when it happens, but I thought as an adult one would take responsible for their actions and his out of control behavior. No I was sooo wrong! I offered to not call the police and thought this woman or the mother of this child would step up and offer to pay for the damage. This happened a year and half ago and as I was told by her, the grandmother, that it was my fault that my parked vehicle was in her grandson way and I was wrong.

 

So after this incident I called the police and reported it, too let them know and any other person who would go near my vehicle that the police would be involved. Now I have let this go and still have the damage to car. Yet, every time I encounter this woman, she has a grievance with me.  The issue is not with the car, it is the fact that her grandson was illegally staying at the complex and was caught on camera numerous times involved in situations with other tenants. Yet, she continues to carry this issue around with her.

 

 

It just goes to show that what we harbor continues to affect us and its everyone else’s fault, the “us or I” part that takes no responsible for our actions. Just like history, if it’s not working then change it or change yourself. The worst thing that could happen is we keep repeating it until we get right, so what if it takes another 20,000 years plus to see that it’s us that help create these problems and we are all on this planet together for a reason. When it comes to basic needs we want to be loved and love, be part of community and family. We need shelter, food, clothing and transportation to support ourselves and our family. As well a need to feel safe and secure within ourselves to be who want to be, yet we still have not learned that we are all the same, battling ourselves over money, power and knowledge and outdated belief systems. 

Fighting for what you believe! 10/02/16

Fighting for what you believe! 10/02/16

I have not written in few weeks. I have been pretty busy with school and work. I decide to write because I do love learning about all kind of things and get discourage in the fact that some people in the profession take it for grant that not everyone processes information the same way, as everyone else. And I am one of them. I have to be able to relate the information or at least draw on another experience to process the information. It becomes difficult when I am unable to relate to the material that is being presented. I bring this up because I am currently studying history, even with my personal feeling aside history has always been difficult for me when someone is teaching it to me.

It always amazed me that in an hour class or that someone who (a teacher) could fully expected anyone person to understand the material they presented and then have to recall, such material verbatim. Now I remember even as child that my teacher would teach or talk to us about some part of history and know that it was wrong regardless of it being in a book or not. The fact is that history is based on people who were educated on some level. Education was seen on level by the social status or people in power not necessary by common people and on many occasions, I have gotten this gut reaction that information presented is in fact just wrong. But we are taught to accept it as fact, because it written in book or a teacher or professor is teaching it to us. This bring me to the incident at hand. I had a quiz on this past Friday and was removed from the class because I apparently did not hear my teacher say that we could not use a certain guide for our terms.

Now regardless of the misunderstanding, it took me back to grade school where I was made to feel stupid for not knowing the answers to the question or questions, when asked. Now I know that there are things that I am very good at and there are things that need more time to ingest. I now have several options to fix the problem that I encountered in class. What amazes me the most is that I am paying for my education and even when I was younger my parents were playing through taxes for me to get an education and yet we are continuously failing are children or young adults, even on a college level because we sit in a class with a teacher or professor who has spent their entire career researching this same material because in their own gut or knowing they needed to research this very same material.

Then they expect people to repeat what they learned in years of research in less time then it took them. I am at a standstill, as to what I want to do with my re-test. I was offer to take my test at another time, which I now have to change my schedule or miss work to prove that I in fact know the information that this person gave in class. The problem with this for me is that history is riddled with the same thing over and over again. People in power, great battles for power or wealth over people, people enslaved, trying to control the masses and people thoughts and beliefs, women treated as an object versus a person, free will, to poverty, homelessness and despair. It just repeating its self over and over again. And we still can’t cannot get it right and can we never.

Even religious doctrine has these same dogma as history. Even as I consider my thought and beliefs of what I should do about my test to prove that I can repeat my teachers or the book version of history and consider whether my job will depend on whether I tell an employer about the history of Sumerian or the Spartan’s, or does it really matter whether I treated another soul with the respect they deserve or even myself with the love the care that we all seem to be looking for and that we all deserve and the details of life is what it is and were just in it, for a belief time.

I should tell you the entire time I am writing this I am walking back forth between the laundry room at my complex and I encounter a woman whom has an issue with me over the fact that her grandson cause 1200.00 of damage to my Suv when he collided with his bike. Now I could have flipped out when it happens, but I thought as an adult one would take responsible for their actions and his out of control behavior. No I was sooo wrong! I offered to not call the police and thought this woman or the mother of this child would step up and offer to pay for the damage. This happened a year and half ago and as I was told by her, the grandmother, that it was my fault that my parked vehicle was in her grandson way and I was wrong.

So after this incident I called the police and reported it, too let them know and any other person who would go near my vehicle that the police would be involved. Now I have let this go and still have the damage to car. Yet, every time I encounter this woman, she has a grievance with me.  The issue is not with the car, it is the fact that her grandson was illegally staying at the complex and was caught on camera numerous times involved in situations with other tenants. Yet, she continues to carry this issue around with her.


It just goes to show that what we harbor continues to affect us and its everyone else’s fault, the “us or I” part that takes no responsible for our actions. Just like history, if it’s not working then change it or change yourself. The worst thing that could happen is we keep repeating it until we get right, so what if it takes another 20,000 years plus to see that it’s us that help create these problems and we are all on this planet together for a reason. When it comes to basic needs we want to be loved and love, be part of community and family. We need shelter, food, clothing and transportation to support ourselves and our family. As well a need to feel safe and secure within ourselves to be who want to be, yet we still have not learned that we are all the same, battling ourselves over money, power and knowledge and outdated belief systems. 

Tuesday, September 6, 2016

The Voice Within : Just a Rant: 9/6/16

The Voice Within : Just a Rant: 9/6/16: Just a Rant: 9/6/16 I just received an email for my son’s middle school about an App to monitor my son progress and it got me question...

Monday, August 29, 2016

The Voice Within : My Battle Scars and Spirituality 8-27-16

The Voice Within : My Battle Scars and Spirituality 8-27-16: The Voice Within came about when I had to take a look at my life. It was like opening Pandora box. What I found has deeply affected my l...

My Battle Scars and Spirituality 8-27-16


My Battle Scars and Spirituality 8-27-16

The Voice Within came about when I had to take a look at my life. It was like opening Pandora box. What I found has deeply affected my life and continues to this day. See I can remember saying to myself when I very small that it was not supposed to be this way. I often wonder why my parents were angry and fighting about things that I had no true understanding about. It seemed that there were always problems and that my father was always in a rage. I remember thinking that if I was my mother I would not put up with it and leave my father.

Understandably, I understand my mother choices for she had three small children and two more, later on. Mostly she made the choice out of fear. Fear has a way making you think that you have no choices when you do. Living with my father was like walking on eggs shells, you never knew what was coming at you. He was fine one minute and angrier the next. Her fear kept her from protecting us and protecting herself. What she didn’t say was felt until I realized that I had to live up to expectations that no child should have to live up. You try and be the perfect daughter or caretaker to keep the harmony and to feel safe in a home that completely out of balance. Now I don’t if was all this way because I had my own trauma at age 5 for being flashed on the way to school which took me 30 plus years to re-dress and understand that it was not my fault. And that person involved in this situation, may have encounter similar situation. I don’t agree with what happen but have found forgiveness to bring myself peace.

          I did a lot thing to keep myself safe. I kept quiet and did things to keep myself safe in the face of a lot, of having  no voice within my own home, or feeling safe to be heard in my home that you were seen, not heard and sometimes not even seen as a person. My mother lack of voice to speak up has created multiple problems in own relationships, because she never felt heard or listen, help create a passive quality in me to not be heard or even have a voice when I need to really needed to see what was happen to me and in my own life. I was unconscious to the fact that I was recreating my childhood in my adult life. I wanted one thing or another, from the relationship that I was not getting it but a lot crap instead. 

I could not see the flags because I was raised to denied that they existed. It was until 2004 that I decide to look at why I getting myself into these toxic relationships. And it started with one book on Co-depend relationship and then children of alcoholic, all the while I would have these dreams of events or see things that I could not even explain to myself. I would have these dreams like I was in them and see the smallest detail and watch it play out like a movie or a vision in plain daylight. I then realized that I had a connection to them. I knew the people in them or they would be stand-ins for people I did not know. I either had a direct connection to or knew them because I lived near them. The hardest part is how to do you tell someone that you witness them in an accident or that you were in their house during dream time and can draw or even give an account of details that I could not possibly know.

 I now know these were the trigger for me to remember. I started with books like Sylvia Brown and just kept moving onto the next one. At which point I realized that this is what I had been experiencing my whole life and just figured everyone had the same visions and experiences that I did. And did not talk about it because it made people  uncomfortable because that is what I was taught. Along this journey in the known or unknown my life was falling apart in a way that I could not even think of. And people perceived it a witchcraft or devil work, and religion has a huge say in it. Or how dare I ask about the spirit standing on the side of the road or at the side of my bed at age 3-4. Or the car that is sinking in the Neshaminy creek that no one else saw. 

Even now 40 plus later people still have this sense of woo-woo around people who have these natural gifts and by all means, it can be a curse and a blessing. It bad enough that we treat each other with absolute disgrace because we can’t see ourselves alike or be kind to a person who may be different than us. It’s easier to objectify another for differences than find things in common.  It been twelve years since I first open that book and it has not stopped or gone away and I continue to learn things every day. I do know that everyone is gifted in some way or another, but it takes work and honest look into your past for crumbles that your soul left for you. It is not for the faint of heart, because if you want to know the truth, you need to be open to the possibility of life not being what you think it is or that you help to create your journey. And sometimes things that happen to you, that make no sense, may help you to connect the dots later on down the road. Just like I left crumb or memories for me to remember 30 years later.

I would go into more detail about what I experienced more, but at the moment I trying to detach from someone who was part of these 12 years of experiences and either hell bend on destroying me or keep pushing me to speak up for myself for the first time. I have since walked away from most of my friends and family because I didn’t want to blame anymore, or be their scapegoat or told that I killed someone because they can deal with their own life, that they created. Or deal with grief from death that someone chose to take drugs or alcohol, or commit suicide instead of taking responsibility for their selves. We're taught to blame things on people, events and our story about our life experiences, but we are the creator of life and our story. It’s up to decide how it ends. ©




The Voice Within : My life as spirit in Human Form – 8/24/16 Entry tw...

The Voice Within : My life as spirit in Human Form – 8/24/16 Entry tw...: When I explain what I see, these are my experiences. Every Medium, Channel or Intuitive see things different. I don’t use tarot cards; I...

My life as spirit in Human Form – 8/24/16 Entry two- Posted 82916


My life as spirit in Human Form – 8/24/16 

Entry two- Posted 82916When I explain what I see, these are my experiences. Every Medium, Channel or Intuitive see things different. I don’t use tarot cards; I do use a pendulum when I need answers to my own questions. People tend to think that having this gift we have all the answers in life, the truth we only get the information that given to by your own spirit families, guides or if there is some type of connection, be it a friend or animal, object. My own gifts, I did not explore until my thirty’s, and that when it really made its present really known.

We are all born with these gifts in different ways, some are here to help heal, the planet, the animals and of course people. Some work with plants, trees, water and air. Others are here to create new systems that work with all people. See you are not just a person in a body, you have many layer to you. You have what called an energetic body’s that surround you, beside a whole light body of yourself within you. And whether you believe it, or not you chose to come here to break down outdated platform on the planet.
Now, it can be a simple as just being nice to people or as big as you can image. I often ask people what did you want to do when you were five and some can remember and are not too off from it and most don’t remember. See when you want to be a fireman and you are working as EMS or in the field of helping people you not so far off from being serve to others. If you wanted to be chef and you are working at a diner in the kitchen, it’s only few steps to being that chef or owning your own business. There tends to be this rush to complete things faster and smarter. To make more and more money; while our passions seem to fall by the waist side making people less happy.

So this brings me to what I experienced, there is so many of them I try to keep in some type of order, but maybe guided to bring them up from memory as fit. I remember being in high school and knowing that someone was ill and had been out for a few days. I would not say I was good friends with this person, nonetheless; I did have classes with her. I remember giving a get well card to her because she had news that could affect her life and future. Which was actual wrong information that the doctors had told her. Now I did not know what was said to her but it was not true. Just image have been told that you could have problems for the rest of your life by a doctor that have no real training of the mind, of food choices and how things happen in the body as you mature from child to adult, as well as physical chemical of body working as whole and not individual parts. I remember writing sorry and hope that you’re feeling better to cheer this person up and since that time I know that what was said to her was wrong and proven wrong.

There was another time when you thinking your dating someone and as stupid teenagers do. I broke it off with someone because something was off, I did know what it was exactly but got a bad feeling. One of my friends begin seeing this person and I told her that he was not who he was claiming to be. She told me I jealous because he like her over me and that kinda where the friendship ended. Looking back, I don’t think I could have said anything differently, she chose to pursue the relationship and I know that it was harder then it needed to be.


Sometimes we are told things by friends, family or our own gut but choose not to listen, because where to taught to listen to what our body is telling us. Have you never met someone and you knew that something was off and could not put your finger on it! That is your intuition, energy body feeling the other person vibration and they are flags to investigate or walk away, because all is not what it seems. We’re not taught this because most of parents were taught to listen to their self-first.  If you think back with you were a child, there would times when you would react to people without even talking to them. 

See we are all telepathic to people and their energy or vibration and can pick up things outside of the normal senses. Again it not taught and your left to think what was that or dismiss it all together. Or if you had a broken bone or injury you know what the weather is going to be, because you whole body feels it. The body is a human barometer to the energy of people, places and things. Here is a thought just to show you what I mean, think of place that you don’t like to go or you enjoy, what does it feel like. The smells, the people, what is around you. Actually feel it!  Does it have color or make you uncomfortable. Is it playing on a fear that you have or is engaging you to really see what is around you. When you go somewhere, anywhere really engage in what is around you. That is my tip for the day. ©

Saturday, August 27, 2016

The Voice Within : 8-27-16 My Dreams were High Jacked

The Voice Within : 8-27-16 My Dreams were High Jacked: Did you ever feel like your life that you dream about or have was Highjacked, I remember dreaming about my life and what it would look lik...

8-27-16 My Dreams were High Jacked

Did you ever feel like your life that you dream about or have was Highjacked, I remember dreaming about my life and what it would look like around age 9 or 10. I had a plan, even if was a dream at the time. These were my goals in life. The plan was simple or at least I thought so. It would take me another 30 years to realize that what was possible required me to give up much of who I was. That I would be not living the dream, but be enslaved by the crap people throw at you. See as early as elementary school we are compared to our peers and teachers.

We're taught that were not smart enough against other students because of a multitude of reasons. We're separated in groups for reading, writing and math. We're taught history that is invalid or completed flawed by another observation. Science is explained by a book with no real observation of the ecologic systems, as why it works and what causes things to change.Our school systems have become about memorizing data versus processing and understanding our part with it. God forbid you question something that your teacher could not respond too. Your cast out for even challenging the notion that your teacher or the books are wrong. I know because I have experience it when I read and heard something. Then told as child and as adult that I was wrong, even when I had nothing to compare it too, long before computers were everywhere for use. Thankfully, we have computer even though we have to dig around for corrected information. We take what anyone one person says and then claim it as truth, because it’s been taught to us, so it must be so. There no thinking anymore, it more of a brain washing us to conform to what other dictate to us.

Even now on the news, or elections or basically anything on the television, computer or cell phones the information that we received is questionable. You have no idea who or what is telling the truth. Recently, I have been questioning the weather and times of day, when I realized that it’s the middle of August and it getting dark at eight o’clock. Now when I was growing up the last thing you thought about was the time during the day. You know that August was hottest of all the months and it did get dark until around 9. Now it could be in the 30’s in November and 70 in March. The trees are losing leaves, due to lack of water and inconsistent weather changes. You see streams of planes spraying chemicals in the air and wondering your allergy are acting up when it’s not a change in seasons.

 It as if blindly walking around and not questioning what is around or before us. We have homelessness and people struggling to put food on the table and pay their bills. When we send jobs overseas and our government shut down because they don’t want to work together, or anyone can walk to food store and purchase verses forging over 100-200 years ago. And we have people who think why should they people help other out, because they work and others should too. Yet, because of our ego as human we allow these things to go on. We blame others for not having a birth right to be here as citizens, yet most of our ancestor came from somewhere else. 

We have become entitled and endow by not even know our family history or history alone, about what our families and ancestors did so we could live the way we to now and that we have the ability to fix many of the problems that face the planet, people. The things stopping us is us stroking our ego and money or the focus of money, government rules and laws, educating our self about our beliefs and were they came from.  Now I am no rocket science but it does not cost 30k to build a car, or 400-500k to build a home, 135.00 for a pill in the hospital for headache, or that food should chemical altered or engineer to feed the masses, yet we have people living on the street by choice or not and feeding people must be a birth right depending on your social status. 

Because if you have not looked around in a while the Jones have become Kardashians, Corporations, government and people playing/praying for you to stay asleep. The news once you too be afraid of people and actually living a life that you could possible dream for yourself or anyone. If you think back what you learned in kindergarten, about caring, sharing and being the best possible you are you living up to that expectation of you. It’s like you’re driving on the road and you think you the only person on the road trying to get somewhere, even when you can see the cars before you, behind you and to the side of you and keep riding someone ass of their car, all because you need to get somewhere; then get upset when traffic is moving. 

We have become so busy doing that were not being.  Do you know that there is 324 million people is United states to date and 7.3 billion on the planet, that if you took One dollar from each person either on the planet or any country you could buy out a major corporation or change the government, because we all know that debt in the trillions and being misuse to create wars, control other countries for their resources and land, enslaving us to be use for their debt of misuse and countless elected people who are to be of service to the people and their pockets. Now some may read this and say what can I do about it, I am not the government, banking system, big corporations or anyone for the fact, or I don’t have time or money to change anything. It takes just a thought, in is this life that I signed up for, is this the life I want my children, grandchildren or future generations.

 Have I become a dollar sign for other people to run my life tell me what to think and believe, how I chose to live or children chose to live and if you think it’s going to change with the next president, here a news flash it is fixed and you just think you have a vote that counts!  There is only one way for it to change, it’s you waking up and challenging what is before you or questioning why is this so, why is this happening or you taking a good honest look at yourself and say am I really a person who believes in the goodness/godness of another, because regardless what you know we are all people on this planet that we call home.  



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Monday, August 22, 2016

My life as Spirit in Human Form 8-22-16

My life as Spirit in Human Form 8-22-16
Entry One
The last few days I have been thinking about all my experience and explaining what I see in the world daily or even over the years. Now, there are so many experiences. I just don’t know where to begin. See I found through the last 10 years of research into paranormal, philosophy, religion, healing modally, reading, lectures and then some. That you can only get so much information and experiences that other people have also experienced. So because I had so many, I thought it would a good idea to write them down because I know that most people are experiencing these same things, but don’t know what to do with them.

One of the first memories was when I was really sick. I am not sure what I was sick from, I had a woman appear at the side of my bulk-bed. I could have been no more five years old. I say this because I shared a room with my sister and I seem to have blanks in memory and time gaps of events. I remember dreaming about a baby being left in a small wooded area near a church by my house. When I lived at my parent’s home and was old enough to cross the main street that went by our section/ development I would go look for the exact spot that I have seen this baby left in, even years later I would look for confirmation of this vision. I seem to be trying to confirm that I really saw what I did. Now I did not tell anyone because, when I did, I was told that it was really there or I did not know what I talking about. Also, I learned really early that people did not see the things that I did. I did not know that people could not see what I seeing. So as a small child I would just take in what I saw whether it was a dream or actually vision, I just did not know what to do with the information.

I did write a book but have yet to edit and proof it. I wrote the book in 4 days and just needed to put the information down on paper, out of my mind. It does not go into all the experiences, only but a few. I also remembering that the neighbor was going to move and that there were issues at the house that they lived in. I don’t know what the issues are, even to this day. I remember saying something to my mother and her saying to me that it was not true. I did not know this at the time but the neighbor was one of my mother’s best friends. Well, they did move and the new neighbors moved in and had the same issues until they separated and one of them continues to live there to this day and tends to not be a very nice person.

I also had problems in school learning to read sounds of a, e, i, o and u. I struggle spelling words based on long and short sound. To this day I still struggle to spell words or miss words in basic sentence structure and English is not my favorite choice by any means.  So it’s kinda strange that I now spend a great deal of time writing and it’s now become my life. And as many people spend time reading this I encourage you really think about what you may have dreamed or physical seen that you may not have spoken about.

By all counts, they get stranger, freakier and scary at times. So this is my life and now I sharing it, so other people don’t think they are losing it. These are gifts and up to you to fit out how to help humanity. ©

Tuesday, August 9, 2016

The Voice Within : Conversation with the Guides: 8/8/2016

The Voice Within : Conversation with the Guides: 8/8/2016: What if today you had to answer for all your pain, suffering that you caused in the world, all the negative thoughts and words that you ...

Conversation with the Guides: 8/8/2016


Conversation with the Guides: 8/8/2016

What if today you had to answer for all your pain, suffering that you caused in the world, all the negative thoughts and words that you created because someone else hurt you. Would you amend those sorrows that you created for another – would you look into their eyes and truly tell them you were sorry for the scar that you caused them. Would you be able to hold unconditional love and light, that all souls are? Would you be able to feel so deeply into your soul those feeling and emotions that caused another to walk a different path? What if, you were the god placed before them and chose your words that deemed them insignificant in world that you all have created. The divinity is within and not one among you is greater than another. That you came here, now to remember that all walk the same path to remember the spark of creation. To remember the Master’s that you are. You have chosen this life time to throw out the dogma of separation and stand as powerful creator and own who you are.

You are not what you have been told. You are not just humans in form. Your vessel is not just your body and mind. You come from a magnificence of the universe. You have been taught to see separation and that your powerless to create a difference in a world that would entrap you to think that because you came from a situation of less than ideal, that you deserve less. What of your fellow man/woman do they deserve less than you? You are separate because that is chose to forget, who you are. You chose your stories and how they would play-out. You were taught darkness, hate and separation, what is perceived as good and evil, as what is ugly, that your smart or dumb on a program that was designed by whom! You have lived my life times to be right here and now. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow is a projections of possibilities. You have chosen now to be the brilliant being that you are, there no mistakes in that!

Only you can decide what is truth for you. Somewhere with you, lies the knowledge and keys for the truth. You have played the games and programs, well, as they were written and imposed a pond you. Now it time to remember and wake up from the illusion that was created, from so much of polarity on your planet that you call home. Unequally, exists because you have allowed it to become truth, no one should be kneeing before anyone, you are all souls of the light in form. You chose now to waken to the truth. You must make a conscious decision to awaken, no-one can make that choice for you. You must follow your hearts to the realizations of the truth. Some part of you knows and it pulls at you, when see destruction a pond your planet, one some level you have agreed to tear down those lies of that have been weaved to reality.   

The truth of who you are is within, not in the illusion. May would say how is it illusion? If I can see it, as so. You have not learned to not see it as anything other than it is. You only learned to expand, what you have been taught. What if you changed the view- on everything? This vessel, as well others that we speak through came in with many of the same challenges that most encounter, but have agreed and have memories that they could not explained to another, had they would have been labeled as such, you tend to label things that you do not understand or even bother to question. It seems to past from one generation to next. And really have you ever bother to seek the answers out for yourself. Other than what you are told, what do you really know about the soul or your spirit! Is it taught at schools, in your homes, or in your family! How do you really know, who you are? If you/yourself have never challenged your own beliefs of who you are! How would you even begin to explain to a child that they are manifested spirit in form of body, mind. That you can create whatever you want! And that you create with love of all people, animals, the planet and that serves the greater good of all.

To most this seems a fanciful idea and concept. Yet, it not taught on level that is greatly accepted. Are you taught about the builder, achiever, and the good going on in the world! You have what you have, because you were taught for hundreds of years. You are not taught about the people who stood in their truth, even your nightly news reflects what world you live in! You see what you see, because people want you to see it as so. Fear control the mind and love does not, it expanses your view. How many events need to play-out before you see your fears are creating the very world you inhabit.  Really, think about this what you fear, create more of the same response. Challenge your fears, challenge your beliefs, be like children again and do it anyway. So what! Maybe you will change your view.






Tuesday, August 2, 2016

The Voice Within : The Empathetic You 8-2-16

The Voice Within : The Empathetic You 8-2-16: The Empathetic You 8-2-16 Taking care of the empathetic you. As children we learned many lessons that did not necessary take care for ...

The Empathetic You 8-2-16

The Empathetic You 8-2-16

Taking care of the empathetic you. As children we learned many lessons that did not necessary take care for us. As small children when we were asked to meet people. we would sometimes cling to our parents or hide because we sense things about people, places and all sorts of things. Then we be forced to speak to someone or greet what was presented to us. This causes more fears, then acceptance of what is or was at the time. Did you ever go to the store and watch some children as there being pushed in the shopping cart or brought into a store full of people, these children or now adults people become overwhelmed, or start emotionally breaking down.

These children are freaking out by the sheer amount of energy that they feeling from people. This can happen in store, playgrounds, schools, the doctor’s or dental offices and pretty much anywhere there is a high volume of people or energy that creates fear, pain or unfocused energy. Children our beacon of light. They are not choosing to have melt-down because they want too. There are feeling their way in the world that relies on words verses feeling emotions to understand their world around them. Many of these people or children get labels of being too sensitive or overly active because we don’t understand them. And as parents we think that they are just acting out because were trying to accomplish something that needs to be taking care of. These children are high sensitive and acceptable to process food, chemical that are in clothing and just about anything that is not natural.

Instead of forcing these children to do things that overwhelmed them. You need to find ways to support them through the stress of what their feeling. Try to think like them, if possible and see the world through them. Go to the store at different time or days to avoid them acting up or stressing yourself out because we live in a world that want us to be robots and comply to some crazy social status, as child should be seen but not heard. Remove process foods from their diets and if there really picky then feed them their favorite meal, until ready to change and try other food. Change what you can, food, clothing, go chemical free use natural products, change the times that you go places and do things in your life. Take short trips for vacation or stop to make more trips out into nature. Talk or watch your children reactions. Who knows you may realize that they were once you and you now understand why you react the way you do, because someone once wanted to change who you are to fit in.  

“The more you open to see their world around you, the more open you are to see the world around you”. 

Sunday, July 31, 2016

The Voice Within : Primordial Box 7/29/16

The Voice Within : Primordial Box 7/29/16: Primordial Box 7/29/16 The primordial box you have put yourself into does not serve you. You have constantly put yourself into beliefs...

Primordial Box 7/29/16

Primordial Box 7/29/16

The primordial box you have put yourself into does not serve you. You have constantly put yourself into beliefs that serve no one. The constant worrying, thinking that the world has turned its back on you serves no one. You carry within you the answers to resolve many of the world problems. Somewhere someone has told you that you are not deserving of the riches within. You have seeded many thoughts that create the very world you inhabit. You believe that your worth is without, when it is within, you all the time. When you judge anything your deeming the qualities that you disagreed within yourself. You have never been without yourself. You have always had your part in the creation of the things that you consider less than what you believe. You have always own and known that truth.

If you would consider that you created all that you see, you would understand that. The challenge becomes when you don’t take ownership that you help create what you believed. You believe in hate because that is what you were taught to believe. If you believe in love than, that is what you will see. What lessons have you learned that hurt you deeply, you all know what they are, because can bring then up in a moment’s notice. The love that you feel for others, draws you to more love. When you love anything it draws more to you. Let’s take a look at the things that you love to do and does it not continue to find a way too you. What of your hobbies, what brings you happiness: reading, painting, cooking, gardening, spending time with children or grandchildren, working with people to overcome challenges, taking care of animals! There are multiple expressions of the love. Just because another believes that they can’t see something does not mean that it impossible. Why if all believed that, what would your planet look like. 

People often think what is true happiness!  It’s those moments when you doing exactly what you want to do. There is no thought in involved you just “are”. When you create from you hearts, there is no wrong or right, you just are. You have listen to so many others words and dream, that you have forgotten your own. All came to keep reaching beyond what you have been taught. Within you is your truth.


Primordial - existing from the beginning of time : very ancient. The history of "primordial" began when the Latin words primus (meaning "first") and "ordiri" (meaning "to begin") came together to form "primordium," the Latin word for "origin." When it entered English in the 14th century, "primordial" was used in the general sense "primeval." Early on, there were hints that "primordial" would lend itself well to discussions of the earth's origins. Take, for instance, this passage from a 1398 translation of an encyclopedia called On the Properties of Things: "The virtu of God made primordial mater, in the whiche as it were in massy thinge the foure elementis were . . . nought distinguishd." Nowadays, primordial matter is often referred to in evolutionary theory as "primordial soup," a mixture of organic molecules from which life on earth originated.

Thursday, July 21, 2016

The Voice Within : 7/21/16 Witness

The Voice Within : 7/21/16 Witness: 7/21/16 Witness Bearing witness to the world events or coming election is to be kept in light not the oppose of the what deeded wrong...

7/21/16 Witness

7/21/16 Witness


Bearing witness to the world events or coming election is to be kept in light not the oppose of the what deeded wrong, as a collective conscious you are bearing witness to the minds of all who have creative false of illusion of a whole that seeks to disillusion you to the fact that you have no choices to what is the best interest of the yourself. You have chosen to lift the vail of your own persecution. You see where this is headed, if you chose to see yourself separate from each other. To raise the conscious, you must discern you own beliefs as to what is truth for you. Waging war on your opposition is not holding light to the fact that collectively you have agreed to play in the sand box per-say. When you hold another in falseness of the true, you also play the part of the darkness. When you should be challenging your light for the best possible outcome. If you were to raise the light on what is being shown, you will see that! 

Monday, July 11, 2016

The Voice Within : 7/10/16 Knowing your Truth:

The Voice Within : 7/10/16 Knowing your Truth:: 7/10/16 Knowing your Truth:  Did you ever catch yourself saying something that you did not think it was something that you knew about!...

7/10/16 Knowing your Truth:

7-10-16 Knowing your Truth: 

Did you ever catch yourself saying something that you did not think it was something that you knew about! Many times we find ourselves saying things that we know nothing about, we did not study it or learned about. You have likely said things that you have no educational knowledge about, and did not realize that you are even saying it. See we have never really learn to listen to ourselves. It been about listen to others or paying attention to all the other people or things around us. Then slowly but surely as you entered school you were directed away from yourself and the things that mattered most to you.

You learned that you needed to pay attention to everyone else, because that is where learning takes place. What if you were deceived that true knowledge is experience through you verses outside of you. As children you were taught to share, be nice and live up to expectation of other people, that you interact with. But, what if the people around contradicted themselves and you witness mixed messages. You have been taught by many to respect all people regardless. That were all the same and that were all given challenges to overcome. And that only God choses the lessons that one must travel with on their journey. Whether your raised as single child or had brother and sisters all were treated equal, even when it did not feel like it. As you entered school, you gravitated towards people who were much like yourself. You made friends and moved in and out of friendships as you grew to trust yourselves to seek out other people who were like you or you felt a connect too, much like you do now.

What if you erased every thought that was misaligned with your soul? What would your perception be? Would you then be that small child who listen to yourself again? Or would you look to others to direct your life and create separation. See up until about or around age seven you remember your connection, then slowly you learned to stop listening to yourself. What you knew, is not what you actual saw. Now there are numerous reasons why you stop listening for one reason or another. And in these moments, that you are listening to yourself, what are you actual saying and realizing how did I know that! Or how do I know how to do that! These are markers or sign posts of sorts to let you know that your bigger then you realize, you just stop listening to yourself.

See listening to yourself is a skill that is not taught. When you think, are you listening to yourself, or are you hearing everyone else chatter of the why’s, could, would, should have’s, why didn’t I listen or pay attention I told you so or projections of thoughts of the what if’s of possibilities. They can be about a choice, work, children, a situation or why you tried to put something in freezer, instead of cabinet (Ah humor, breaks up the seriousness of mind.) See the mind would like to make your think that it’s boss but it’s not. If you drop one foot down into your heart, it will tell you a different story, and it is a story. See your heart knows the truth, otherwise you would not seek out Love from another because that is who you are.

So the next time you say something, really listen and think about it. Where did that thought come from. Did I learn it, did I see it, is that really my thought or someone else view?  How much am I a like to any other person. You have been taught to see the differences, but what about the “a like” parts. Other than sex organs, which can be changed at this point in time, in your history. What is different between you or another! Here We will get you a clue: it sits one foot above your heart and it thinks it’s boss and know everything it does to a point, if it is filtered by the heart.

As gifted souls you have traveled many life times to this present moment of expansion on the planet. You are at a turning point where you can no longer pretend that what is before you is/or are working, and the foundational structures sustain your evolution. You must choose if what you see and believe is your truth and remember why you came here.


The brain is a beautiful, and runs the body as it is supposed to,

  but the heart knows better.

Friday, June 24, 2016

6-18-16 Finding common themes throughout our life.

6-18-16 Finding common themes throughout our life.

     Patterns of beliefs that hold us back in more ways than one. These could be money issues, relationships, career or job, belief about self, things that we desire to have in our life. Let say you keep dating that same type of person and keep getting the same result. Have ever just step back and really looked at what is before you. The same behavior, the same type of commits, the same everything that you think you want in a person. And then we put our good side of first. Then after time you realize things are not what they seem.

     This person that you thought was perfect is far from it. You then again have to face the fact that this is not what you want for yourself. We live is a society that places so much on face value of what a person worth or the value is to them. We have read the story tales of the person in shiny armor and dream of what that looks like and for men is one who special, drop dead looking and turn other men’s head eyes.

     When really what you are looking for is that connection to each other or the community of embracing each other as ourselves. It not the sexual attraction, it not the looks, it not the financials, it not material things between you. It the connection that no matter what he/she gets you and you get them. Things are expressed and communicated between that two of you regardless of situations. It completely open and real, shared between the two of you, or group of like-minded people. Many times these things are expressed without realized that you never even spoken a word. You already know on some level without communication a single word.

     Women attend to be more advance in this area because they are more in tuned to watch for the sudden signs. This is more inherit as mother’s intuition that somethings are right or off. Mothers seemly know what their child is feeling from birth and through life. Both men and women carry these qualities in their DNA. For centuries it been pushing aside for many reason for the time period that it represented. Power, greed, war of land, goods, religion, and over people each is testament of beliefs that one hold.

     If you look at history what was the upheaval of the moment. What is each war! We have been enslaving for centuries believe that if don’t follow the status quo we will be punished and rightfully so, because in your past lives you have for many reason. If you think about the great thinkers of the world you will find that all of them, have encountered opposition for their beliefs and idea’s from the world being flat, to landing on the moon, to your current technology.

     The connection and community has always been saw out by power over another, not a coming together. What divides ultimately destroys. Your election that is at hand. Is a true reflection of the works of the mind! Who’s really speaking truth. What if you build a wall, how far into the ground would it go, can you not fly over it or climb over it, or dig under it. Did the Great Wall of china keep people out or the Berlin Wall, or what of any wall for that fact. Your history is loaded with evidence of the battles that were and are still being fought. What of the men and woman who fought against these rising?

     Womb = wo-men, men plant the seeds just as tree blooms, or bee’s help the fruit grow on trees. Mating for life, do all animals mate for life, no! if we look back at when Adam ate from the forbid tree and what about Eve. What if the truth is that Eve attempted Adam with the forbid fruit, why would Eve attempt Adam? Was Adam not responsible for his own choices. Did Eve knowing that true knowledge of the questions being ask are with the seeker to ask. If it was to seduce Adam, were they already created as one from the rib of Adam. Were they not already equal, except for the womb, which births life, creation and idea’s, thoughts.

     Why would a might god, not want you to have knowledge to birth thought and expansion of the universe. If there is only one god, would you not be created as equal part to communicate with its-self. There is great pain and suffering in the world, because it was created. There are society that live by simple mean and collectively work together, so no-one left without.

     What if the world is to see what you can create, until you to come back to self! If you look at the last 100 years what do see? What advancement and changes have affected the world? Would your child or grandchild truly understand amount of growth that has taking place? People say that there is no more middle class, that it has diminished. The fact is that you have come closer together, you now understand that separation is created by the ego of what you believe. If you believe less, than that is what you will have, if you believe that you deserve more to allow to be fruitful than you will have more. It’s a mindset of your own creation. What if the only rules were that you needed to see every equal to yourself.

     If every person born is a child of God, an expression of itself, is every criminal, every person bad because you believe it is or they are bad, or a homeless person, are they not an expression of self. Did you ever just think about what cause them to do what they did? Their choices or choices that their parents made to provide for them in life. The Jones’ are everywhere. You define yourselves by what you have, not who you are. What if everything you knew was taken away without you truly understanding why it happen, then what would you think?  Today you have a job, tomorrow you don’t. Then what! You believe in a god, but not each other. You see people a less than yourself, what makes you more valuable than another, your money, your house, your job, your relationships, your family, your faith. Does your faith incorporate all people regardless of religion or physical appearance?


     Can you walk out of your homes and get in your car, drive to work and say that every person driving is an expression of god, regardless of their driving. You look for God and pray when in distress. God is everywhere, everything is expression of god. the person driving that car is part of god, the car was created from an idea, thought or action of a person who then created it. Can you fix the world problems as individuals, most likely not, but collectively you can! You have to want it too, or contribute to whole of humanity not fight alongside it. 

The Voice Within : 6-18-16 Finding common themes throughout our life....

The Voice Within : 6-18-16 Finding common themes throughout our life....: 6-18-16 Finding common themes throughout our life.      Patterns of beliefs that hold us back in more ways than one. These could be mo...

Monday, June 13, 2016

The Voice Within : The Voice Within : Loving are stories 6-13-16

The Voice Within : The Voice Within : Loving are stories 6-13-16: The Voice Within : Loving are stories 6-13-16 : Loving are stories 6-13-16 We all have are stories that we tell to ourselves. The family t...

Gas-Lighting Ourselves 6-13-16

Gas-Lighting Ourselves 6-13-16

So this morning I woke up to gas lighting repeating, repeatedly in my head. I understood what it is because I experienced my whole life, as person, long before I had even knew what it was. I have since acknowledge that what I knew a child that things existed outside of our reality. Whether there were ghosts or angels or the existence of guides that help us in our daily lives. It has been a long journey to come to grip that things are not always as they seem. And the small voice that has led me to now, has forever changed my life. As a child I experienced many of the things listed below. I did not realize that it was emotion abuse until my life was turned upside down. For an intuitive empath or just human, many things have happen to me and that I experienced.

Many times I questioned what I saw to be told that it was not really there or you’re imaging things. Or how could you possibly know (when did happen) or I don’t smell anything, see things, hear things. These all have terms after years of searching for answers. They are Emphatic, Medium’s, Intuitive and Healer, Shaman, Light workers, Way showers, and many more. Were raise to believe that humans, people are the highest species on the planet and nothing else exists. But, with any research, and filtering through counts books, articles and internet research you will find that people all over the world have their own thoughts as to what exists and what does not.

Even science has speculated at or confirmed the existence of over beings back before the bible existed. Yet, we have learned to not speak of the many things that we have felt or experienced. It like living a perpetual lie of sorts. Now, if you look up gas lighting you will find it listed an emotional abuse, which is a form psychological abuse by a person, but it is hard to prove in a court of law because it’s a “she said or he’s said” situation and without being truly provable, when the person in involved out right denied it over and over again. It becomes an on-going argument of conversation, if you engage with the person. You either learn to shut-up or deny it’s even happening, because people tell you that you don’t know what you’re talking about.

I bring this up now, because I had person attempt to destroy me and any future that I saw for my family and myself, and because it was a repeated thought this morning of how people use this type of behavior to distort our own thinking long before we realize it’s happening to us. What if all the well-meaning people and society have been gas-lighting us to distrust a birth right that we’re to remember who we are! What it there fears throughout all time was to awaken to the possibilities that all is not what it seems. There are powerful people who would have you continue to sleep and not question even yourself, and for you to see you less than one or another. That to have what you want it takes lots work and enslaving you to your fears. It like the man who flashed me a child and then threaten to bring harm to my family and myself. I was gas-lighted into thinking that I powerless and then confirm by my own family when I questions things of paranormal or what is very normal. Making myself think that I could not trust my own eyes or thoughts. That what I perceived was in fact there and those blimps of lights or shadows, waves of reality bending or morphing, ghost, angels. I leave it at that.

I share the below with you, as a way to expose  Domestic Violence and Sibling Violence, Addictions running through families and co-pended, depend relationships’, that is not necessarily physical in natural, but become physical after the person tries to take measures to protect themselves and leave the situation. It starts is childhood, not when there in these relationships with people. This type of mental abuse is not limited by color, culture, age or gender and normally is pasted by one generation to the next, and so on.  


“You’re making that up.”, “You see everything in the most negative way.”, “Where did you get a crazy idea like that?”, “You have an overactive imagination.”
Have you heard something along these lines from your partner? Do you end up questioning and doubting yourself? Do you often find yourself questioning your instincts?
Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse in which  the abuser manipulates situations repeatedly to trick the victim into distrusting her own memory and perceptions. The term Gaslighting comes from the 1938 British play, “Gas Light” in which a husband tries to drive his wife crazy by dimming lights powered by gas in their home and then denies that the lights changes when his wife points out the change. In this play, the wife questions her own perceptions and sanity which is exactly what the victim of gaslighting does as well.
There are various gas lighting techniques that the abuser may use on the victim. These techniques throw the victim off topic and can lead them to question their own thoughts, memories and actions
Withholding ~ the abuser pretends to not understand the victim, refuses to listen and declines. For example, the abuser may say “You’re just trying to confuse me.”
Countering~ the abuser questions the victim’s memory, even though the victim is correct. For example, the abuser could say, “Remember what you thought last time and how you were wrong.”
Blocking & Diverting ~ the abuser changes the subjections and questions the victim’s thoughts. For example, the abuser can say, “You’re imagining things.”
Trivializing~ the abuser makes the victim believe that her needs and thoughts aren’t important.  For example, the abuser may ask, “Are you really going to let something so small get in between us?”
Forgetting & Denial ~ the abuser pretends to forget what happened and may also deny promises made to the victim. For example, the abuser may say, “I have no idea what you’re talking about.”
According to author and psychoanalyst Robin Stern, Ph.D., the signs of being a victim of gaslighting include:
•You constantly second-guess yourself.
•You ask yourself, “Am I too sensitive?” multiple times a day.
•You often feel confused and even crazy.
•You’re always apologizing to your partner.
•You can’t understand why, with so many apparently good things in your life, you aren’t happier.
•You frequently make excuses for your partner’s behavior to friends and family.
•You find yourself withholding information from friends and family so you don’t have to explain or make excuses.
•You know something is terribly wrong, but you can never quite express what it is, even to yourself.
•You start lying to avoid the put downs and reality twists.
•You have trouble making simple decisions.
•You have the sense that you used to be a very different person – more confident, more fun-loving, and more relaxed.
•You feel hopeless and joyless.
•You feel as though you can’t do anything right.
•You wonder if you are a “good enough” partner.
If you find yourself relating to these signs, then you may be a victim of gaslighting which is emotional abuse.

Credit for above: http://wingsprogram.com/tag/gaslighting-techniques/