Painful situations, trauma, and Experiences: 4/8/16

Painful situations, traumatic, and Experiences: 4-8-16

How as child we block out painful situations, trauma, and experiences! We see events that occur in our lives and the reminders that we are not good enough by events that happens way before he were able to even process what was happening to us. Let say that as a child you had a learning difficult which was deemed by your teachers and then confronted by your parents that you were incapable of learning something that they were teaching. We have all been there at some point, it could Math, English, science, reading, etc.

          Fundamental you really only to need to learn math, your chosen language, writing and reading, everything else is an expansion of these basic concepts. But what if your visual learner or physical learner or processor in concepts of e idea’s, of any individual subject. 

Our learner style is as different, as the people on the planet. In every culture learning is a different experience. What if your only introduction to education was at home and there was no learning. Now days we see that the earlier, that we introduce things to children the better they are at continuing a living a life of learning with idea’s and imagination. 

We continue to force our child into school that don’t allow for the “why’s are we learning this” and what does it really mean. We have what’s called Spiral math, which is apparently supposed to repeat itself until it’s understood. What happen to learning math until, it was master on some level! Or understanding that English is spoken different in the United Kingdom or even China, are we really studying the American English and why does it change every 100 years or less,to reflect the evolution of people.  

Why do we keep teaching our children that in order to know something we need preschool, elementary, Middle school, High school and then college degrees, or multiple degrees, before we know something! Our children, we as children, came in knowing on some level what we would be doing in our life time, it may be block or forgotten or you’re doing it already. I have found that people don’t faced things that they have difficulty with and don’t challenges their own thoughts in regards to things that come up for them. Now I have blocks, at times regarding writing on demand or writing about a subject that I have had no prior knowledge about and I, myself can’t BS my way through it, even if I attempted too. 

See my blocks come from events, that I encounter from when I child. I remember hearing my teacher tell me mother that I could not learn or that I refused to do the work in class. I remember being punished by my teacher and had to sit in the front of the class were there I really could not possibly learned. Because I then facing the board, which looked like a blur when you look directly at the television with your face to the screen. What my teacher did not realize is that something had happen to me and then as my parents should have realized was that I was not the same person. See I was traumatized for about a year, until my little mind decided to block out memories that did not know how to process. One would think that the peoples who knew best would question what happen to me or get me help.

Instead, I was punished at school and then punished at home for being defiant and then I punished myself because I could tell anyone that my life was threatened and my parents’ life too. All because some man exposed himself to me and then threaten to kill my family and myself. I have had many flash back to that day, many times over the years. Because I did not believe myself, because I was always saying things and questions thing, I was told I was making thing up. That I did know anything, because “Children were seen and not heard” motto existed. Which is out dated program that still exist on some level even today.

          If you think about the ways that schools are run today, how many of our children love learning in school or they there because that what we do. Are, our school district expanding our children minds or our they left to sit, put in their time and never really learning to think about life, their place in it or how to make a better world for everyone. 

Have we all become so brain washed that No other person matter other than our pockets and families. Why is it 40 some years later, we reflect back on our life to see that we done so much or so little in our thinking, that we pass the same information to the next generation, generations after that. Why are we demanding so much from our children to processing so information that we ourselves do not question why we do what we do! That ok, it was pass to you from people who mentored you and now were re-cycling the same old thinking.  

Unless some event, experience or trauma posed it to you, made you look within and what hell was happening around you or too you. And suddenly you either look for the answers or just stay in the same mind set, re-creating the same old thinking. How many times were you told NO, or you can’t or you don’t know anything, of you don’t have enough education, or that you are not good enough, why would want to do that or money is big one too, bla, blab, bla. 

See as parents we are the first teacher for our children then grandparents, family, teachers, neighbor’s and then life. If we’re not going question the things that happen around us why should we expect our children to do any differently, why would we expect a single government, or anyone person to question their life and how we lead as example. We are not trying to reinvent the wheel or send rockets to the moon, that already been done. 

It about getting real with ourselves and healing to bring about a world for all people. If you want your power back then take it back. The people who mentor you to get you this far in your life, have done their job. If you want Solidarity, 

(define - union or fellowship arising from common responsibilities and interests, as between members of a group or between classes, peoples, etc.:

To promote solidarity among union members.

2. Community of feelings, purposes, etc.

3. Community of responsibilities and interests.

Than find it, it’s Within you and has always been there.