Pillows and Blankets 4-17-16
revised 4/25/16
revised 4/25/16
We all had are pillow and blankets as child they were and
are our life line in many ways to protect us from the emotions that we carried
with us most of lives. We may encounter emotions that we did understand or
experience things that child did not understand. These comforts or discomforts
follow us until we resolve them or find forgiveness for those events that cause
us disharmony. Now many of those thoughts or emotions ties us to events that
could be playing out in our lives now.
Those long forgotten memory of why was I yelled at, or what
did I do that was so wrong, or why did that happen to me, or who can I tell,
because no one believes us. These are just some of the few things that we told
ourselves as children. We have buried these memories so far deep into our minds
that we deny they ever happens or maybe they did happen and as parents due they
indicated that they didn’t happen to us as
child/children.
What if you suppress them so long that you don’t trust your
own judgement! That how could they possible be true or told that I didn’t
experience that emotions, of fear, angry, hurt, pain or energy of that event in
time. How I was denied that support, or abandonment, or call many things that
left scars on soul. We all of memories that pop up from time to time or many
thoughts that arise out of the clear blue. Do we just deny them and just go on
about our day.
These moments of thoughts or flashes are indicators that we
have emotions that are being triggered and need to be address. First is
forgiveness of ourselves that we were denied the attentions that we needed.
Second is admitting that we were unable to change the event that happen. See as
children we’re expected to be child, but understand the working of the adult
world when the fact is that some of us barely understood our own family and why
things were the way they were. Trying to understanding why we were good enough,
or not allow to do as other families, or things happen in own family, with
death, or food, why one child could be allow and you could not do the same, or as
in the many things that we experience as a child/children.
The Why’s can be endless to resolve these questions, many
closed off these experiences and found a place that would keep them from harm’s
way! We took on parts like in a play, to feel safe, loved, wanted, and needed.
We modeled what was being reflected and roles that we would play. We deny
ourselves to be accepted in whatever form it took or looked like. There is
saying in psychology that children our resilience from trauma and reframing is a
common term used in counseling that professionals use, I disagree, in that
these events leave imprints on the soul and are denied by others, over and over
again until they manifest in your current life.
Reframing is used to see an
event differently, well as wonderful as that would be, to see it differently,
it does not change that fact that we experience something or anything. Then
told to change are view of a situation that is not easy to undone. We need to
understand why we experienced that situation, event or emotion to truly heal
it. Maybe it is confronting the situation or finding compassion for ourselves, that
we were not capable of changing that situation that happen to us or too, us.
Life is difficult enough without having to deny that people
or things have had huge impacts on our lives, even when we don’t understand
them. You cannot change the fact that we’re faced with a multitude of events in
our lives, but we can forgive ourselves that we faced these people, events and situation
that have brought us to the now. One of many challenges that people take on is
that they were bad, unloved, unseen, unheard, not unacknowledged or care about,
care for.
First, you would not be who you are, unless on some level
you knew differently about yourself. So when it comes to those pillow and
blankets that kept you safe, or protected you, to help you address emotions
that were coming at you. I would embrace them and finding healing in the fact
that you were a child and you did nothing wrong to cause these events that
caused disharmony to your soul.
These are experiences that challenged your core beliefs, they
are seeking answers to those long forgotten questions. They are still unsettling
to your being. You know on the deepest level of our soul that this not who you
are and that life is not supposed to be this way. Then the question then
becomes how do I heal myself and live from my heart and not my experiences in
life? To truly be me. Just Thought.
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